Every bride has a love-hate relationship with picking out her wedding dress. It’s a long and hard process, and rarely is the first one you try the perfect one. And while most of them will just be a definite “no”, you will not be able to hold back the tears when you try the one. It’s going to be just like the first time you saw the person you are going to marry – you will just know. But to make sure that doesn’t take an eternity, here are some tips to help you manage the big search.
Don’t let others influence your decision
There are so many different views on this issue, but the bottom line is: you are the one buying the dress. You are the one wearing the dress. It’s your wedding. You choose. Having a small squad with you, however, is a good thing. Hearing different opinions and having multiple eyes on the dress as you try it on is always a plus, since they will make sure there are no details that you will only notice – and maybe dislike – after you buy the dress. However, if you fall in love with the gown, and can’t see yourself in anything else, you should get it, no matter what the others say. In fact, the people you should bring aren’t just supposed to be all of your bridesmaids, or your mother, or any set person: it should be someone who you usually like shopping with and who knows your style well. You don’t need anyone pushing their own dreams, visions and style on you at this point.
Bring the shoes
If you’ve already chosen the shoes, make sure you bring them along, and if you haven’t, bring a pair that is of a similar height and style to the ones you plan to wear. If you have a high heel it can greatly impact the length of the dress and how you will look overall. Sometimes, you might put on a dress and think it doesn’t give you the shape you are looking for, when it actually only needs the boost from the heels. Or, if you are wearing statement shoes and want them to be seen, then you want to make sure you find a dress short enough to show them off.
Ask about your size
All too often, brides are talked into getting a dress that isn’t in their size, either by thinking that their weight will change significantly between that moment and their wedding, or by trying on a size too small, and someone convincing them that when they do the alterations, the dress will look great. But luckily, today we have an amazing variety of plus size wedding gowns, so that every bride can find her perfect dress without having to squeeze into a dress two sizes too small, or paying a fortune for alterations to make the dress fit. If you are planning a store crawl, then call the stores ahead of time and ask them if they have dresses in your size, and whether they can order samples if they don’t. If you are shopping online, make sure you check the store’s return policies to be certain you will get the perfect dress.
Accessories make all the difference
The dress is just a blank canvas. A beautiful canvas, sure, but still blank – awaiting all the different decorations you are going to put on top of it. Those can be the things that will directly alter the shape of the dress, like a slip, sleeves, gloves, jackets, cardigans and belts, or they can be smaller details like necklaces, rings, bracelets and earrings. Of course, the two most important parts of the look after the dress are the veil (which can be a veil, a net, a hat, or a flower wreath) and the bouquet. You don’t have to have all of your accessories with you when you go dress shopping, but try to imagine yourself with the whole get-up. Also, you shouldn’t stick to just one set of jewelry before you buy the dress, because you might want to find something different to fit the gown better.
No matter what dress you opt for, the most important thing you should remember is that the dress needs to be comfortable and that you feel good in it. Your partner is going to love you no matter what you look like and anybody else’s opinion simply can’t compare. Make sure you spend some time with your dress to make sure you know how to work it when you take all those important steps into a new chapter.
Author: Georgia Selih